Acknowledging the Fear of Separation
{3:30 minutes to read} Separating from someone you’ve loved, trusted, and who, most likely, was your best friend, is an incredibly scary concept on a deeply personal level. On top of that, you are also likely worrying about how this will affect your children, as well as how you will afford to pay your bills. It’s completely understandable that you’re concerned and frightened by both the process and the future.
Add to that, how hard it would be to express your fears to your spouse, who had previously been your “go-to” person.
- If it was a mutual decision to separate, you may want to be stoic;
- If you feel that it’s all his/her fault and that you are an innocent party, you probably don’t want to admit a vulnerability to your spouse at this point; or
- if you feel guilty about initiating the separation, you don’t think your spouse would be sympathetic to your concerns.
So, what can you do?
Once you’re more comfortable with your decision to separate, you can address the practical fears by seeking professional help geared towards addressing the legal process of separation.,
1. Meet with a Mediator
2. Meet with a Lawyer