914.946.0848  .  contact  .  map & directions  .  subscribe  .  LinkedInFacebookTwitterGoogle+
Mediation Blog

May 2, 2016 - {3:48 minutes to read} As someone who is making a sincere effort to be mindful and present, and also as someone to whom these qualities do not come naturally, I understand how difficult it is to be patient. When you are in the midst of a divorce and want it to all be over yesterday, it’s even more of a challenge to let things work out in their own time. If you want to mediate, I urge you to undertake this challenge with as much forbearance as you are able to muste [...]

April 12, 2016 - {3:12 minutes to read} After watching the umpteenth presidential debate, you can imagine why I started to think about civility in personal and professional settings. For most of us, civility in personal situations is automatic. We’re polite to strangers, say good morning, hold open a door and say you’re fine even if you’re not. On the other hand, for those with whom we’re most comfortable, sometimes that automatic default to civility is lost. An [...]

March 29, 2016 - A departure from my other posts, and one that I hope will resonate with you. Most people wanting to adopt a pet will typically look for a puppy or at least one under a year of age. But since we adopted Max, a miniature dachshund who was then between 10 and 12 years old, I consistently try to persuade anyone who is adopting a pet to consider adopting an older, or as they say in the world of pet adoption, a senior pet. Admittedly, I was reluctant to adopt Max. But when w [...]

March 15, 2016 - {3:54 minutes to read} Clients in initial consultations are sometimes hesitant to begin mediation because of: Fear the other will take advantage of them and the process; Friends and family saying they should have a lawyer fight for them; The other person having a greater advantage in bargaining power. In previous posts, I’ve written how those kinds of concerns can be overcome in the process of mediation. You can have the support of legal, financial and ment [...]

March 1, 2016 - {3:48 minutes to read} When comparing mediated and litigated agreements, the first thought that comes to mind is that a mediated agreement would have terms that are balanced, would be more creative and would more accurately reflect exactly what the parties believe is best for their families. The LanguageAnother important difference is in the language itself. Without considering the actual terms, one can see a difference in the terminology used in an agreement drafted af [...]

February 16, 2016 - {2:48 minutes to read} Budgets are not fun – composing them, living on them and even just having to think about them. So, I understand the look in clients’ eyes when I first talk to them about completing their budgets. Here are 4 reasons why I think it’s vital to have accurate and complete budgets for each party in mediation. Budgets are a reality checkNo matter the level of income, a good percentage of my clients are living above their means. Seeing [...]

February 2, 2016 - {3:12 minutes to read} In the summer of 2015, the New York legislature passed a statute providing for post-divorce maintenance. The statute was then signed by the governor and is effective for all matters filed in Court after January 23, 2016. The statute provides a formula for computing maintenance based upon the respective incomes of the parties with a cap of $175,000 for the income of the person paying support. For a person paying support with income over $175,000, t [...]

January 19, 2016 - {3:36 minutes to read} If you were to ask any parent if, under any circumstance, he or she would want to punish their children for something they had nothing to do with, they would think you were out of your mind. However, I’ve seen people do just that, though I doubt they are aware of it. I’ve seen it happen most often in these situations: The other parent had an affair The other parent worked night and day The other parent ceded any responsibility for [...]

January 5, 2016 - {3:30 minutes to read} After hearing Katty Kay speak about the book written by her and Claire Shipman, The Confidence Code, I immediately downloaded it and am very glad I did. They performed an exhaustive study on the highly sought after quality of confidence: Is it something that we are born with? Is it something that can be taught? Is it more important to be confident than competent? and most significantly, why is it that so many women are hampered by [...]

December 8, 2015 - {2:42 minutes to read} Around this time of year, most people are considering resolutions for the new year. I never did that because I feel if you want to change something to be more positive, why wait? I prefer to reinvent myself or incorporate changes as they come to mind and when I can commit to them, be it on a Tuesday in March or the last week in December. I’m not without end of the year rituals though. Mine are just in terms of the past rather than the future [...]

November 24, 2015 - {3:00 minutes to read}    Previously, I wrote about the benefit to parents in using a child specialist.  In this post, I am writing about the benefits to clients in using a divorce coach in certain situations. It does sound odd to think that someone needs a coach to get a divorce.  At first blush it can bring up the wholly inappropriate picture of someone on the sidelines cheering you on as you prepare to end your marriage. That is most definitely n [...]

November 10, 2015 - {3:18 minutes to read} I am attending a series of workshops for mediators who are interested in practicing mindfulness tools to help alleviate stress, impart focus and extend compassion not just to others but also to ourselves. To start in a small way, our trainer suggested as an exercise, to practice mindfulness while brushing your teeth–to really think about how the toothpaste tastes, how it feels against each tooth, the sounds.  I had to laugh because as t [...]

Page:123456789[ 10 ]11121314
Search
Topics
Mediation (82) | Divorce (75) | Divorce Mediation (20) | Mediator (13) | Conflict (9) | Litigation (8) | Child Support (8) | Separation Agreement (7) | Consultation (6) | Collaborative Divorce (6) | Clare A. Piro Mediation (6) | Clare A. Piro (6) | Separation (5) | Co-Parenting (5) | Parenting Plan (5) | Communication (5) | Children (4) | Settlement (4) | Finances (4) | Parenting (4) | Attorney (4) | Family (4) | Equitable Distribution (3) | Clients (3) | Mediation Myths (3) | Clare Piro (3) | Divorce Finances (3) | Marital Assets (3) | Child Inclusive Mediation (3) | Divorce And Children (3) | Divorce Mediator (3) | Child Consultant (3) | Child Support Standards Act (3) | Expenses (3) | Agreement (3) | Spouse (2) | Marital Property (2) | Separate Property (2) | Truth (2) | Budgets (2) | Collaborative Practice (2) | College Expenses (2) | Apology (2) | Informed Decisions (2) | Equal Parenting Plan (2) | Listening (2) | Legislation (2) | Compromise (2) | Emotions (2) | Child Support Standards Act (CSSA) (2) | Pandemic (2) | Relationships (2) | Assets (2) | Financial Professional (2) | Custody (2) | Moving Forward (2) | Seperation (2) | Anger (2) | Step-Mother (2) | Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) (2) | Settlement Agreements (2) | Conflict During Mediation (2) | Mediation Versus Litigation (2) | Mediation Benefits (2) | Couples (2) | Bitterness (2) | Step-Children (2) | Anxiety (2) | Step-Father (2) | Unrequited Love (2) | Post-Divorce Income (2) | Marital Home (2) | Calculating Support (2) | CSSA (2) | Mediate (2) | Coronavirus (1) | Dividing House Asset (1) | Ex-Spouse (1) | But (1) | Apologizing (1) | Social Distancing (1) | Cash Flow (1) | Equity Loan (1) | Interest Payments (1) | Emotional Attachment (1) | Refinance (1) | Property Distribution (1) | Meditate (1) | Maintaining Calm (1) | Divorce Assets (1) | Equitable Distribution Statute (1) | Collaborative Process (1) | Fiancé (1) | Reluctant Spouse (1) | Post Nuptial (1) | Time To Process (1) | Patience (1) | Lawyer (1) | Mental Health Professional (1) | Marriage Counseling (1) | Family Law Software (1) | Financial Information (1) | Frame Of Mind (1) | Financial Documents (1) | Court Process (1) | Telling Your Spouse (1) | Prenuptial Agreement (Prenup) (1) | Entitlement (1) | Negotiation (1) | Needs Vs Wants (1) | Court Vs Mediation (1) | Prenup (1) | Prenuptial Agreement (1) | Marital Concerns (1) | Asset Distribution (1) | Attitudes Toward Prenups (1) | Seller (1) | PostNup (1) | Buyer (1) | Fear Of Separation (1) | Separating (1) | Mediation Misconceptions (1) | Older Adults (1) | 50/50 Parenting Plan (1) | An Advocate (1) | A Neutral (1) | Non-Residential Parent (1) | Child Support Payment (1) | NYs Child Support Guidelines (CSSA) (1) | Child's Best Interests (1) | Custody Determination (1) | Primary Caretaker (1) | Domestic Violence (1) | Older Parents (1) | Elder Mediation (1) | Eldercare (1) | Tough Decisions (1) | On-Duty Parent Responsibilities (1) | Anxious Thoughts (1) | Pathological Liar (1) | Expectations (1) | Joseph Goldstein (1) | Feelings (1) | Intention (1) | New Year’s Resolutions (1) | Child Focused Mediation (1) | Mediating Emails (1) | Family Mediations (1) | Communicating (1) | Tone Of Voice (1) | Facial Expression (1) | Transition Day (1) | Children And Divorce (1) | Complicated Finances (1) | Couples Counseling (1) | FinancialPortfolio (1) | Multiple Assets (1) | Custody Disputes (1) | Matrimonial Cases (1) | Court Order (1) | COVID19 (1) | Global Pandemic (1) | Maggie O’Connor (1) | Remain Healthy (1) | Lack Of Communication (1) | Unhappy Relationship (1) | Heard (1) | Understood (1) | Power Of Regret (1) | Co-parenting (1) | Guilt (1) | Taking Responsibility (1) | Divorce Agreement (1) | Holiday Season (1) | Parental Holiday Sharing (1) | Cultural Holidays (1) | Religious Holidays (1) | Mediating Onine (1) | Mediating Virtually (1) | Technical Difficulties (1) | Agreement To Mediate (1) | Caucus (1) | 50/50 Parenting (1) | Parenting Schedules (1) | Accepting Responsibility (1) | Dreaming (1) | Remarriage After Divorce (1) | Divorce Law (1) | Self-talk (1) | New York (1) | Budget (1) | Agreements (1) | Dogs (1) | Adopt Shelter Dogs (1) | Older Dogs (1) | Effects On Family (1) | Living Together (1) | Living Apart (1) | Baby Boomers (1) | Grandparents (1) | Abundance (1) | Blame (1) | Scarcity (1) | Resolution (1) | Marriage (1) | Summer (1) | Kids (1) | School Year (1) | Power (1) | Acknowledgement (1) | Conflicy (1) | Fall (1) | Extremes (1) | Payments (1) | Seperation Agreement (1) | Advice (1) | 2015 (1) | Responsibility (1) | Finding Love After Divorce (1) | Parenting Plans (1) | Parenting Post-Divorce (1) | Joint Physical Custody (1) | Moving On After Divorce (1) | Halloween (1) | Fear Of Divorce (1) | Scared Of Divorce (1) | Holiday Blues (1) | Holidays Post-Divorce (1) | Alone At The Holidays (1) | Consulting Attorney (1) | Post-Divorce Dating (1) | House (1) | Year In Review (1) | Equity (1) | Mental Health (1) | Specialist (1) | Relocation (1) | Change (1) | Difficult Clients (1) | Self-determination (1) | Self Determination (1) | New York State (1) | Control (1) | Balance (1) | Equality (1) | Mindfulness (1) | Unemployment (1) | Moving On (1) | Family Enrichment (1) | Little White Lies (1) | Intervention (1) | Custodial Parent (1) | Financial Situation (1) | Husband (1) | Wife (1) | Bankruptcy (1) | Affair (1) | Married (1) | Settlement Agreement (1) | Personal Relationships (1) | Public Trust (1) | Lies (1) | Dishonest (1) | Beneficiary (1) | Spouses (1) | Separation Agreements (1) | Work Stress (1) | Holiday Preparations (1) | Perfection (1) | Matrimonial Dispute (1) | LawyerDivorceMediation (1) | MediationSession (1) | FamilyMediation (1) | AttorneyPresence (1) | Blended Families (1) | Significant Other (1) | Attitudes (1) | Therapy (1) | Spousal Support (1) | Disclosure (1) | Divorce Papers (1) | Parents (1) | Contribution (1) | College (1) | Nesting (1) | Compassion (1) | Hurricane Harvey (1) | Married Couples (1) | Commingling (1) | Transmutation (1) | Maritial Property (1) | Maritial Assets (1) | Retirement Account (1) | Negative Communication (1) | Life Insurance (1) | Joint Decision Making (1) | Joint Legal Custody (1) | Installment Agreements (1) | Temporary Agreement (1) | Permanent Agreement (1) | Tentative Agreements (1) | Accusations Of Delay (1) | Lack Of Trust (1) | Financial Costs (1) | Joint Account (1) | Settle Agreement (1) | Divorce Coach (1) | Settlement Term (1) | New York’s Child Support And Maintenance (1) |
Connect
Attorney Advertising

The contents of this editorial should not be considered legal advice. The information provided in this editorial is intended to be general information and is not intended to be a substitute for a consultation with an attorney. Each case and situation is different and must be handled based upon the specific facts and circumstances unique to that case. For specific answers to questions on an individual case, it is best to consult with an attorney. Attorney Advertising

Close Announcement

Online Mediation Available

In response to COVID-19 I am providing family and divorce mediation services online. Click to learn more.