August 7, 2024 - There is a statute in New York that allows you to file a petition in court to modify your child support agreement if there has been a significant change in circumstances, three years have passed, or if either party's income has increased or decreased by 15% or more. The statutory triggers may not fit your unique situation, so instead, you can include modifications in your separation agreement now. For more information about mediation, divorce, and family law, check ou [...]

June 24, 2024 -   In my latest video, I discuss the surprising benefits of taking a deliberate break during divorce mediation. From emotional readiness to financial changes and even high-conflict situations, taking breaks can help you return to mediation more prepared and focused, ultimately leading to successful outcomes. For more information about mediation, divorce, and family law, check out my website — ClarePiroMediation.com. [...]

March 27, 2024 -   In this video, Clare introduces the idea of using objective standards to evaluate a separation agreement, especially when spouses have differing views on what's fair. If you would like more information about mediation, prenups, and family law, check out my website — ClarePiroMediation.com. [...]

March 14, 2024 -   In this video, Clare discusses why, even when asked, she refrains from providing a subjective judgment on whether a mediation agreement is fair. She emphasizes that the concept of fairness is highly subjective, and underscores the importance of impartiality and self-determination in mediation, stating that her opinion should not hold more weight than the clients' perspectives.If you would like more information about mediation, prenups, and family law, check out [...]

February 28, 2024 - The Greek philosopher Heraclitus is credited with the idea that the only constant in life is change. Or to put it another way, the only thing you can count on is change. There will be times when one parent wants to make a change to the co-parenting holiday schedule. This video lists two “don’ts” that you should observe if one parent is suggesting a change, especially during the holidays. If you would like more information about mediation, prenups, an [...]

February 7, 2024 -   Most divorces involve long-term marriages where there are many assets and possibly children to be considered. But what about a short-term marriage, especially when there are no children? Should you mediate the divorce or just let your lawyers hash out the terms? That might seem easier but it usually takes much longer and costs a lot emotionally and financially.If you would like more information about mediation, prenups, and family law, check out my website &mda [...]

January 24, 2024 - If you're concerned that you and your co-parent will have some difficulty in implementing the terms of your parenting plan, it's a good idea to include the name of a parent coordinator in your agreement. Having a pre-determined advocate on hand who can help you with that conflict is a good idea for many reasons.  If you would like more information about mediation, prenups and family law, check out my website — ClarePiroMediation.com. [...]

January 8, 2024 -   In this video, I reflect on the end of the year, sharing my unique approach to the New Year. In place of resolutions, I look back on the past year, emphasizing two concepts: impermanence and gratitude. Though looking back may seem odd to some, it can bring comfort and ideas for the future. Wishing you a Happy and Healthy New Year.If you would like more information about mediation, prenups, and family law, check out my website — ClarePiroMediation.com. [...]

December 13, 2023 -   Although living separately without a legal agreement may seem easier than going through a divorce, two major pitfalls can make things extremely messy if and when you decide to formalize your separation. If you would like more information about mediation, prenups, and family law, check out my website — ClarePiroMediation.com. [...]

November 29, 2023 -   We all have regrets — words and actions we would like to take back, but can’t. However, this blog references an article by Daniel Pink in the NY Times Well Newsletter. Pink explains a 3-step process that can help you gain valuable insights from your regrets and keep you from repeating them as you move forward. If you would like more information about mediation, prenups, and family law, check out my website — ClarePiroMediation.com.   [...]

November 15, 2023 -   It is usually a wise practice to have an attorney review the separation agreement worked out during the mediation process. The question arises as to whether the attorney should be mediation-friendly or not. This video looks at both sides of that question and offers some guidance on what you can expect from either type of attorney.If you would like more information about mediation, prenups, and family law, check out my website — ClarePiroMediation.com. [...]

October 25, 2023 - The past couple of videos have dealt with mediating your divorce if there are trust issues with your spouse. The most distressing and emotional trust issue is, of course, infidelity. A successful mediation will require you to focus on what your spouse is saying, not how you feel. And most importantly, you must base everything on the best interests of your entire family, including the unfaithful spouse. If you would like more information about mediation, prenups, and fa [...]