914.946.0848  .  contact  .  map & directions  .  subscribe  . 
Mediation Blog

Topic: Spouse | 63 post(s).

November 11, 2020 - {4 minutes to read} I recently attended a virtual lecture presented by Maryellen Dance, LMHC from Rochester, NY, focusing on fact versus fiction in terms of anxiety. She had some very interesting suggestions to deal with anxiety that may be helpful, especially when you’re in a particularly anxious time of your life like separating from your spouse. Your fears of the future, or focus on the past, can hinder your progress in a mediation if they hijack your ability t [...]

September 16, 2020 - {3 minutes to read} In an earlier post, I described the benefits of using a financial professional who acts as a neutral in mediation, but sometimes that may not work for you. Here are some factors to consider when deciding which will be best in your case. An Advocate If you choose to have the financial person be an advocate, they would be acting in the same way that an attorney would act on your behalf — looking out for your interests and how to achieve the bes [...]

June 3, 2020 - {3 minutes to read} I recently read an article in the New York Times by Dhruv Khullar, MD, in which he wrote about the possible detrimental health effects of feeling regret. Dr. Khullar believes that doctors often ignore the toll that regret can have on someone: “We often don’t explore the role regret might be playing in the distress many patients and families experience, or acknowledge it when it’s clear that it is contributing to their pain.” [...]

May 20, 2020 - {3 minutes to read} As a divorce mediator, it’s not surprising that I work with many couples who experience a lack of communication. Since that lack of communication is now being coupled with spending an inordinate amount of time with your spouse during the pandemic, you may consider this an opportunity to improve your communication. In Listening During a Pandemic, Kate Murphy writes that while a pandemic has the likelihood of causing an increase in divorce, it ca [...]

March 13, 2020 - {4 minutes to read} Are all family disputes the same? Of course not. Divorce mediation is different from mediation involving the contest or interpretation of the provisions of a Will or Trust Agreement. But clearly, they have similarities: Ongoing Relationships While some familial relationships may have always been troubled, it’s likely that at some time, the parties probably got along well. And they may need to continue to get along for the sake of attending ext [...]

January 22, 2020 - There are 14 factors that are used by courts and attorneys to determine an equitable distribution of marital assets. In mediation, the couple makes these determinations together. Taking the time to review the factors, however, you may find one that resonates with you, and allows you to make a proposal to your spouse that will take into consideration its relevance to you and explain why you think you should get the property distribution that you are proposing in your me [...]

December 10, 2019 - {4 minutes to read}  In other posts, I’ve often touted the benefits of working with a financial professional, either together or separately, during a couple’s divorce mediation. In this post, I want to summarize the circumstances under which I think a mediation would progress most easily, and that is if both spouses worked with a financial professional who acts as a neutral. While the training and expertise of the financial professionals would be the sa [...]

August 7, 2019 - {3:30 minutes to read} Separating from someone you’ve loved, trusted, and who, most likely, was your best friend, is an incredibly scary concept on a deeply personal level. On top of that, you are also likely worrying about how this will affect your children, as well as how you will afford to pay your bills. It’s completely understandable that you’re concerned and frightened by both the process and the future. Add to that, how hard it would be to expre [...]

July 24, 2019 -   In my practice, I have found that one spouse is often prepared to move forward with a divorce, while the other may not have even come to terms with the fact that the marriage is ending, let alone be ready to discuss divorce. In this video, I outline a few suggestions that may help if you find yourself in a situation like this.  [...]

July 10, 2019 - {3:30 minutes to read} In my last video, I promised some creative win/win options that you could take when it came to the division of your home. Since they could be a little complicated and hard to follow, I thought it would be better to present them in a written blog.    Can’t Refinance Right Now Let’s say that you both agree that there will be a buyout and a refinance, but it will take some time for the “buyer” to qualify for a loan [...]

June 5, 2019 - {3:30 minutes to read} In a previous post, I wrote about the enormous impact that a sincere apology could have on another person. There is, though, a very significant step that must come first. Taking Responsibility for Our Actions Sometimes, the intentions behind the words said or the actions taken are crystal clear, and it is impossible to say with any semblance of credibility — “I didn’t mean to do that.”   More often, though, it&rsquo [...]

May 1, 2019 - {3:00 minutes to read} One of the things you will be asked to address in mediation is what, if any, changes will be made to child support. In a previous post, I wrote about New York’s statute that would permit parties to file for a modification for support under certain circumstances. But, if you’re mediating now, you certainly would want to avoid having to go to court to modify child support in the future. It’s best to include the changes to support t [...]

Page:[ 1 ]23456
Search
Topics
Mediation (77) | Divorce (72) | Divorce Mediation (20) | Mediator (13) | Conflict (9) | Child Support (8) | Litigation (8) | Separation Agreement (7) | Clare A. Piro Mediation (6) | Consultation (6) | Clare A. Piro (6) | Collaborative Divorce (6) | Communication (5) | Separation (5) | Parenting Plan (4) | Finances (4) | Children (4) | Family (4) | Parenting (4) | Settlement (4) | Attorney (4) | Mediation Myths (3) | Expenses (3) | Child Support Standards Act (3) | Co-Parenting (3) | Divorce Mediator (3) | Clients (3) | Divorce Finances (3) | Marital Assets (3) | Divorce And Children (3) | Clare Piro (3) | Equitable Distribution (3) | Seperation (2) | Legislation (2) | Equal Parenting Plan (2) | Pandemic (2) | Relationships (2) | CSSA (2) | Custody (2) | Financial Professional (2) | Budgets (2) | Separate Property (2) | Spouse (2) | Child Support Standards Act (CSSA) (2) | Listening (2) | Assets (2) | Compromise (2) | Truth (2) | Calculating Support (2) | Step-Father (2) | Step-Mother (2) | Step-Children (2) | Mediate (2) | Settlement Agreements (2) | Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) (2) | Moving Forward (2) | Anger (2) | Unrequited Love (2) | Bitterness (2) | College Expenses (2) | Anxiety (2) | Mediation Versus Litigation (2) | Conflict During Mediation (2) | Apology (2) | Mediation Benefits (2) | Post-Divorce Income (2) | Marital Home (2) | Informed Decisions (2) | Agreement (2) | Marital Property (2) | Collaborative Practice (2) | Couples (2) | Fiancé (1) | Negotiation (1) | Needs Vs Wants (1) | Court Vs Mediation (1) | Emotions (1) | Entitlement (1) | Prenup (1) | Prenuptial Agreement (1) | Asset Distribution (1) | Prenuptial Agreement (Prenup) (1) | Marital Concerns (1) | Attitudes Toward Prenups (1) | Collaborative Process (1) | Marriage Counseling (1) | Emotional Attachment (1) | Dividing House Asset (1) | Ex-Spouse (1) | Divorce Assets (1) | Refinance (1) | Interest Payments (1) | Equity Loan (1) | Accepting Responsibility (1) | Taking Responsibility (1) | Blended Families (1) | AttorneyPresence (1) | Significant Other (1) | Attitudes (1) | Remarriage After Divorce (1) | Family Enrichment (1) | Cash Flow (1) | Buyer (1) | Lawyer (1) | Pathological Liar (1) | Fear Of Separation (1) | Mental Health Professional (1) | Family Law Software (1) | Financial Documents (1) | Financial Information (1) | PostNup (1) | Post Nuptial (1) | Telling Your Spouse (1) | Seller (1) | Reluctant Spouse (1) | Frame Of Mind (1) | Time To Process (1) | Patience (1) | Court Process (1) | Multiple Assets (1) | Parenting Schedules (1) | 50/50 Parenting (1) | Co-parenting (1) | Children And Divorce (1) | Transition Day (1) | On-Duty Parent Responsibilities (1) | Caucus (1) | Agreement To Mediate (1) | Religious Holidays (1) | Cultural Holidays (1) | Mediating Onine (1) | Mediating Virtually (1) | Technical Difficulties (1) | 50/50 Parenting Plan (1) | An Advocate (1) | Older Parents (1) | Domestic Violence (1) | Elder Mediation (1) | Eldercare (1) | Tough Decisions (1) | Older Adults (1) | Primary Caretaker (1) | Custody Determination (1) | Non-Residential Parent (1) | A Neutral (1) | Child Support Payment (1) | NYs Child Support Guidelines (CSSA) (1) | Child's Best Interests (1) | Parental Holiday Sharing (1) | Holiday Season (1) | Mediation Misconceptions (1) | Social Distancing (1) | Complicated Finances (1) | FinancialPortfolio (1) | Matrimonial Cases (1) | Custody Disputes (1) | Anxious Thoughts (1) | Maintaining Calm (1) | Equitable Distribution Statute (1) | Apologizing (1) | Property Distribution (1) | Meditate (1) | Coronavirus (1) | Court Order (1) | COVID19 (1) | Couples Counseling (1) | Understood (1) | Power Of Regret (1) | Guilt (1) | Divorce Agreement (1) | Separating (1) | Heard (1) | Unhappy Relationship (1) | Global Pandemic (1) | FamilyMediation (1) | Maggie O’Connor (1) | Remain Healthy (1) | Lack Of Communication (1) | But (1) | Divorce Coach (1) | Older Dogs (1) | Adopt Shelter Dogs (1) | Effects On Family (1) | Living Together (1) | Baby Boomers (1) | Living Apart (1) | Dogs (1) | Agreements (1) | Advice (1) | Blame (1) | Self-talk (1) | New York (1) | Budget (1) | Grandparents (1) | Divorce Law (1) | Acknowledgement (1) | Power (1) | Conflicy (1) | Fall (1) | Extremes (1) | School Year (1) | Kids (1) | Scarcity (1) | Abundance (1) | Resolution (1) | Marriage (1) | Summer (1) | 2015 (1) | Year In Review (1) | Holidays Post-Divorce (1) | Holiday Blues (1) | Alone At The Holidays (1) | Consulting Attorney (1) | Finding Love After Divorce (1) | Post-Divorce Dating (1) | Scared Of Divorce (1) | Fear Of Divorce (1) | Parenting Post-Divorce (1) | Parenting Plans (1) | Joint Physical Custody (1) | Moving On After Divorce (1) | Halloween (1) | House (1) | Equity (1) | Control (1) | New York State (1) | Balance (1) | Equality (1) | Mindfulness (1) | Self Determination (1) | Self-determination (1) | Specialist (1) | Mental Health (1) | Relocation (1) | Change (1) | Difficult Clients (1) | Payments (1) | Seperation Agreement (1) | Financial Situation (1) | Custodial Parent (1) | Husband (1) | Wife (1) | Affair (1) | Bankruptcy (1) | Intervention (1) | Dreaming (1) | Life Insurance (1) | Settlement Term (1) | Spousal Support (1) | Beneficiary (1) | Therapy (1) | Married (1) | Settlement Agreement (1) | Holiday Preparations (1) | Work Stress (1) | Perfection (1) | Matrimonial Dispute (1) | LawyerDivorceMediation (1) | Separation Agreements (1) | Spouses (1) | Public Trust (1) | Personal Relationships (1) | Lies (1) | Little White Lies (1) | Dishonest (1) | Settle Agreement (1) | Joint Account (1) | Compassion (1) | Nesting (1) | Hurricane Harvey (1) | Married Couples (1) | Transmutation (1) | Commingling (1) | College (1) | Contribution (1) | Responsibility (1) | Unemployment (1) | Moving On (1) | Disclosure (1) | Parents (1) | Maritial Property (1) | Maritial Assets (1) | Tentative Agreements (1) | Permanent Agreement (1) | Accusations Of Delay (1) | Lack Of Trust (1) | Financial Costs (1) | Temporary Agreement (1) | Installment Agreements (1) | Divorce Papers (1) | Retirement Account (1) | Negative Communication (1) | Joint Decision Making (1) | Joint Legal Custody (1) | MediationSession (1) |
Connect
Attorney Advertising

The contents of this editorial should not be considered legal advice. The information provided in this editorial is intended to be general information and is not intended to be a substitute for a consultation with an attorney. Each case and situation is different and must be handled based upon the specific facts and circumstances unique to that case. For specific answers to questions on an individual case, it is best to consult with an attorney. Attorney Advertising

Online Mediation Available

In response to COVID-19 I am providing family and divorce mediation services online. Click to learn more.