In mediation consultations, people often express common concerns. Their questions reflect understandable worries about wasting time and money, being at a disadvantage, or feeling that cooperation is impossible. Asking these questions during a consultation helps clarify whether mediation is the right path and whether the mediator is a good fit.

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If you and your spouse decide to mediate your divorce, there are several ways to find a mediator. Most clients find mediators through referrals. If you prefer not to ask for referrals, you can search online for a “divorce mediator near me” and review websites together. No matter how you find a mediator, it’s important to schedule a consultation before making your choice. 

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If your spouse wants a divorce and you don’t, it’s natural to feel hurt, angry, or resentful. In mediation, it’s essential to express your feelings in a constructive manner, such as explaining how the divorce affects you and what support you need to move forward, including more time or financial assistance to find a job or obtain training. Presenting your needs this way can lead to better outcomes.

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In this article, Clare shares a humorous but poignant reflection inspired by a parody calendar caption about resentment. She observes that resentment is common in divorcing couples, especially when one wants to leave the marriage and the other does not. However, she explains that the law doesn’t penalize someone for asking for a divorce, and using resentment as a negotiating tactic in mediation can backfire.

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This video highlights the negative impact of using "but" in apologies and discussions. When someone sincerely apologizes, then adds a justification, it can make the apology feel insincere. Avoiding "but" fosters more productive conversations and better outcomes. Start with apologies and expand this mindful approach to other discussions.

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If your divorce mediation is on pause because your spouse needs time to process the separation, here are steps to ensure a timely return. First, set a firm date to resume mediation after the pause and stick to it. Second, consider whether to help your spouse with housing or budgeting based on your relationship dynamic. Lastly, acknowledge your own emotions and seek support if needed, whether through therapy, a support group, or friends. Use this time to focus on your future and prepare proposals for mediation.

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If you're struggling with separation during a divorce mediation pause, consider seeking additional support. If you're in therapy, ask your therapist for more resources. Look for local divorce support groups or online resources. A divorce coach can also help you navigate the process. You might even ask your spouse about couples counseling — not to reconcile, but to assist in separating. 

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Taking a break from divorce mediation can sometimes help a couple to progress. Recently, a couple struggled to move forward after two and a half meetings. The husband hadn't fully processed the separation and was not emotionally prepared, unlike his wife, who had been considering it for some time. A three-month pause allowed him time to reflect. For more information about mediation, divorce, and family law, check out my website — ClarePiroMediation.com.

If your divorce mediation feels stalled despite progressing at your desired pace, consider taking a break. Often, decision-making challenges stem from one spouse's state of flux, such as career changes, uncertainty about living arrangements, or hesitance about the separation. A pause can provide clarity and focus when mediation resumes. In an upcoming video, I will share an example of how this approach worked in a recent case.

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If you're spending a holiday without your kids, consider recreating a holiday experience when your kids return. Wear pajamas, open gifts, and have a big breakfast no matter the time of day. For Thanksgiving, you could host a Friendsgiving with your kids' friends or loved ones. The key is to make the time together enjoyable and memorable, even if you weren't together on the exact holiday.

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